I just finished reading Richard Rohr’s book about the second half of life, entitled Falling Upward. It contains a lot of wisdom for my midlife journey. Here are a few choice quotes I appreciated.

None of us can dialogue with others until we can calmly and confidently hold our own identity.

The genius of the biblical revelation is that it refuses to deny the dark side of things, but forgives failure and integrates falling to achieve its only promised wholeness.

Jesus is never upset with sinners; he is only upset with people who do not think they are sinners!

Failure and humiliation force you to look where you never would otherwise.

If heaven is later, it is because it is first of all now… As now, so it will be then… When you do not know who you are, you push all enlightenment off into a possible future reward and punishment system, within which hardly anyone wins… If your notion of heaven is based on the exclusion of anybody else, then it is by definition not heaven.

Either God is for everybody and the divine DNA is somehow in all of the creatures, or this God is not God by any common definition, or even much of a god at all.

Wisdom happily lives with mystery, doubt, and “unknowing,” and in such living, ironically resolves that very mystery to some degree.

In the second half of life, we do not have strong and final opinions about everything, every event, or most people, as much as we allow things and people to delight us, sadden us, and truly influence us. We no longer need to change or adjust other people to be happy ourselves. Ironically, we are more than ever before in a position to change people – but we don’t need to – and that makes all the difference… Now we aid and influence other people simply by being who we are.

 

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